It's Friday night and I'm blogging. While everyone else is out schmoozing with friends and colleagues, I'm sitting at my computer, alone, drinking a glass of red wine and feeling lame. You've heard it before from me but once again, I need to make some friends. I'm really having a hard time with it.
I went through the exact same thing when I moved to New York City from Amelia Island. It took about a year and it wasn't until I got a second job waiting tables that I established some real relationships. The thought of waiting tables now makes me want to cry. No way will I go back to that. But I've got to do something. Any advice out there? Surely someone out there has moved to another country (for a man), uprooted and left all that they know and love, and are in the same boat as me.
The females here are different too. For being such a big city, a lot of people just know each other, went to uni together, work together and they are pretty clique-y. Not rude, just not interested. I wouldn't mind making a few guy friends but this is hard to do. If you say straight up you have a partner, they are moving on. I don't think many guys my age are interested in having a lot of female friends, even if I am super awesome.
I wouldn't mind playing some kind of sport, maybe softball, but outdoor activities won't really start up until September when it gets warmer. I did join an American club (one of two that I could find online) but so far the only thing they've advertised in the way of news or activities is an email letting me know I can now buy Yankee Candles in Australia. Sweet. So I can now light an apple pie scented candle while I drink my wine and blog alone on a Friday night. Super lame.
I've been racking my brain about potential hobbies or classes I could take. I love to cook, shop, read, be athletic, travel, drink, and I love animals. Maybe a book club would work out for me? I thought about joining a cooking class or running club but those don't have a lot of one-on-one interaction.
At any rate, I'm open to suggestions. Somethings got to give though. I've got to have a few core friends to call my own or I'll go crazy. And nobody needs to see that.
I was going to suggest joining some sort of club or group, so you're on the right track. WTF to the American club sending emails about being able to get Yankee candles, though! Lol! That wouldn't exactly be my first priority out of the country, but that's just me. Have you found a church that you like yet? I only ask because I made a lot of really good friends when I joined a new church last fall. That might have some quicker results than waiting for the athletic clubs in September. Until then, good luck! And yes, I have also been a loser blogging on a Friday night with no friends. I don't think anyone who has ever moved to a new city has NOT been that person before. No judgment!
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